Heeeeey everybody! It's been a minute since I wrote anything on here. In my defense, I was working on getting book two ready for publishing...and I am happy to say that "College Life 102: Social Learning" is available! Woot woot! You're probably thinking (if you checked out the contents of my home page) that you knew that already....well, I just wanted to repeat it ;-)
Anyway, on to what I wanted to touch on today. Stepping out of your comfort zone. This is something that I am learning to do. I always find that I am more...how should I say this?...I sound better through my characters, lol, I express myself through writing, which has always been the case. I always feel that I am quiet and shy when I first meet people and when I step into unknown territory. Okay so, I had a wonderful opportunity to be a guest author on an internet radio show yesterday! Yaaayyy! That was a first for me so I was excited and most of all FREAKIN' NERVOOUUUSSS! I never know what to say when put on the spot and a lot of times it's hard for me to get my damn point across....so in my opinion, and probably other people's opinion as well; when I first started the interview I sounded hella nervous and was probably rambling a little bit...okay, a lot. (Don't judge me, unless you've been in that situation...even then, don't judge me, it ain't cute). But once I got a little more comfortable, I feel that I sounded better and was able to express myself more clearly.
Talking in public is not something that I was really comfortable with, but I realized after a pep-talk with myself (yes, I do that) that If I want to be as big as I see myself being in this industry, I need to step out of my comfort zone (which is in front of my laptop, by my-damn-self). And now that I am doing that, I am learning that I am capable of doing things that I thought I couldn't do. Sure my radio skills need some polishing, sure my facial expressions need some taming (I don't need to be on TV looking at people like they have ten heads); but with time, I'll get there. Hell, breaking out as an author was a HUGE leap out of my zone. I mean, going from being the only person reading my books (aside from my sister heeeeeyyyy Jawhara), to having other people, especially strangers reading and commenting on them...sheesh that's uncomfortable. LOL. Especially when some people may not get your concept or may see things differently than you intended in your work....I have to resist the urge to battle back...let's face it, I'm an author and I'm sensitive about my sh#t (channeling a little Erika Badu there). But it's teaching me to remain humble you know? Everybody isn't going to give me five stars and that's cool!
Uncomfortable situations are meant to test you, to see if you have what it takes to be what you want to be and you know what?...I do! It's okay to be afraid, but don't let that stop you. You're never going to know what you can do if you don't try. So leave that protective bubble, get out there and get to work! XOXO -J.B. Vample
Stepping out of your comfort zone